C:  What a difference a day makes. OK, ten days. So, we decided to take things one step at a time, and find K a car. Maybe ‘home’ would be more bearable if she had the ability to come and go as she pleased. This would also help her get a much needed second job, and the incentive to get enrolled in a local community college. Then she got picky about what the car looked like! Finally we settled on selling her my fiancé’s Honda Accord. (This could be a big mistake, but we’ll take a chance….) Now, we just needed to teach her how to drive a standard, get auto insurance, register and insure the car and get it inspected. We got everything done, and she’s mobile. Any guesses on how long it will take her to get that much needed second job, so she can make a monthly payment to me, and pay her insurance bill???? K isn’t what I would call overly aggressive………but she is #1 in coming up with great excuses…….


C:  Navigating the stepping stones of life is not easy. Especially when you are a divorced stepparent of a nineteen-year-old girl, named K. So, my current dilemma is this: K’s life is falling apart, boyfriend problems, money problems, she hates where she lives – in her biomom’s basement. She needs a car, isn’t getting enough hours at her waitressing job, and needs to get enrolled in college. The dilemma – K wants to come live with me!!! OK, I feel some level of obligation to help out, as both of her dysfunctional bioparents are not in a position to help – but guess what, I’m getting married in 19 days, and I’m currently looking for a job. HELP………any thoughts?